Before I begin, I would like to say that I might probably offend some with my views and opinions on this issue, but that is not my intention, per se. On the contrary, I would just like to air my views on this very subjective matter that applies to many (even most) at large.

The very controversial topic of: Couples in a relationship.

A couple in a relationship can be defined as any two people united/ connected, either romantically involved. Well, at least I'll like to think that way. We can leave out the other bits that aren't exactly applicable in this context.

Anyhow.

The keyword here is 2 people, so it would suit most people well to remember that they are indeed 2 seperate entities. With individualistic thoughts, opinions, behaviours, friends, etc etc. It is most imperative that these 2 people are not regarded as just 1 pair; such that both voices the exact things all the time, do the same things all the time, have the same thoughts all the time, are together all the time. These do happen on a more frequent basis than usual, but there is still room for brainwork on both parties. It is not such, that as a 2 people are involved in a relationship, that as long as 1 has a certain opinion regarding a matter, that the other immediately carries the same opinion. While it is a connection, it does not mean that either of them is a lackey/ shadow or a 'yes-person'.

To put it simply, it just means that I'm still me, the same person with the same opinions, thoughts and behaviour as I was before. I didn't change overnight, I'm not going to just melt away into some other person, and I most certainly am not going to shrivel up and conjoin with my bf just because I'm in a relationship with him. I'm still me! The annoying, complaining, whinning me. I'm not really complaining.. oh wait, I Am. I'm a little..just a weeee bit annoyed - do I really seem so shallow? That is so fastidious!

Oh, and one more point to note: I think it would be good for people know that even though friends get attached and all that kinda stuff, it's very mean to start excluding these attached friends from their social lives. Indeed. I didn't really regard it because I have not experienced anything like it before till recently. But truly, it's noteworthy. Don't start to disappear on your friends just simply because they're attached. They're still there, just a little busier, still the same old friends.

Don't make the mistake of pure judegmental assumption. Afterall, if you ASSUME, you're just gonna make an ASS out of U and ME.

*smiles*

Labels: Couple, relationship